Snazzy chapter heading but an important topic.
Why do women have such a tough time with sex? Why is it that if they do it they are seen as sluts unless a man makes them
property honest by marrying them or by being with them in a long term relationship?
From birth, females are told to guard their sexuality, that it’s bad to be sexual. People say. “oh, those skirts are so short?” “Oh my, look at the cleavage she shows, where’s her self-respect?” These attitudes tell females in their most formative years that being sexual is somehow bad. They are told to
not fuck “save” themselves until they find true love. The problem with this way of dealing with sexuality is that you’re giving a negative connotation of sexuality to young females. Now I understand the risks of sex for teens. Unwanted pregnancies and STD’s are always a possibility. But every woman must go through the teenage years before being an adult and it within those same teenage years that girls are given the “sex is bad” theology. Then somehow, in their adult years they are told the opposite, that sex is great and why aren’t you enjoying it? Tell someone they’re stupid from a young age and they’ll believe it. Tell girls that sex is not for “good” girls and they’ll grow up confused about sex at best.
Religion doesn’t help in this regard. Like most of what it touches, it does more harm than good. Religion seems to hate the birth canal and subsequently women in general (More on that topic in a later blog). There were at least a dozen virgin birth myths before Jesus’ mommy came along. The idea being that no woman who has had sex can possibly bear a deity. No
slut woman that has had sex can be so virtuous as to bear the son of god. Religion is big on modesty such as COVER UP, don’t show what you have lest you are cheap and whorelike. Different religions have different views on modesty from christians and jewish females being told to dress in not to revealing ways to radical muslims being told cover it all up!
Virginity becomes the goal to achieve for males. This has been going on for centuries. Of course virgins were seen a s so pure the only
idiotic logical thing to do was to murder sacrifice them to the gods (male of course)
But virginity means no sex at all and of course religion goes further stating no self touching either. So women are left with an uneasy feeling at best about sex and also they are left with no point of reference for a future sex life.
Men have been controlling women in this regard for too long. It’s men’s views (aided by women) that have shaped this way of thinking. It’s men that want to be with the girl who enjoys sex but not to end up with that same woman. In the most terrible of cases it can lead to idiocy like raping women during times of war so that the women become tarnished by the rape. Not their fault at all but a women raped in some countries is equal to a death sentence. Better to be with the clean one, what nonsense. Utter stupidity like this makes me cringe.
It’s getting better, nowadays women (at least in North America) are more open to their sexuality than ever before but it hasn’t freed all women from the chains of perception. Being sexual is still seen in a negative light. A woman will be sexual but won’t want to be “percieved” to be whereas for men the goal is for everyone to know he’s a player. I can’t stand double standards!
So women, it time to take back your vaginas. Learn to appreciate it. Don’t want to have sex? That’s fine, you have your fingers. Don’t like fingering, then just go and choose from the multitude of vibrators and dildos out there and learn what your body can do. Then when your ready to have sex, you’ll know what to do and there’s nothing better than a woman who knows what she wants in bed.
But what do I know? I’m just a bus driver.